Category Archives: Social

Happy Summer 2017!

summer time sign
Summer is the time to let go of winter blahs

A funny thing about summer. Sometimes it can be hard to get social because summer is when people take vacations, spend more time with outdoor hobbies or take off on the weekends to their cottage.

So a challenge for you is to make sure you keep on being social, work on your projects and of course, be SOCIALLY UPWARD!

I really like Derek Siver’s self-description as a “solitary social“.  Basically, if you’re introverted-ish like me (although I don’t believe in those personality tests, as I explain here), you can still be socially upward without being a loser-schmoozer.

So while all those other people are posting their inauthentic travel pics on Fake-book or wasting their time at some after-five happy hour thing, take the time to embrace the socially upward things in life.

Here are a few ways to get you started:

QUOTE TO PONDER:
“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
Isn’t it funny how people are so me-focused yet true success and HAPPINESS comes from helping others? How can you help others get what they want?

RANDOM LESSONS I LEARNED FROM BOOKS:
I will NOT order red snapper fish at a Japanese sushi restaurant (see Real Food, Fake Food)
Danish people figured out how to be the happiest people on earth…something about having a 33-hour average work week, embracing “Hygge” and men/women both having parental leave rights (see Year of Living Danishly)

MUSIC TO REV YOU UP:

  • Serena Ryder’s newest album is creating earworms in my brain, and for good reason, every song is awesome! I am quite partial to Electric Love but like I said, the album is full-on amazing
  • Harry Styles…sorta embarassed to admit I had no idea who this guy was but I quite like his single, Sign of the times…sounds vintage 60s pop and pensive

So with a new season, more sun and brighter colours, it’s a time to really shine for us socially upwards. Take time to breathe, enjoy the moment and of course, keep checking in at sociallyupward.com!

Be wary of Personality Tests

Personality
We don’t always show our true face or personality.

 

The most popular and well-known personality test is the ‘Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test‘ (MBTI in short). You’ll know what I mean if you’ve ever used an online dating site and (mainly) women list some four-letter acronym in their bio.

The four letters are from the MBTI test. Invariably, it will either start with an “E” (for extraversion) or “I” (for introversion).

I’ve never really liked the MBTI test. Workplaces, though, love the hell out of MBTI testing. I also noticed women loving MBTI testing. I guess it comes down to trying to un-lock what a person is like. It’s empowering (to think) you know what makes a person tick.

But is the MBTI fool-proof? My own experience is that I’ve taken the test via the book, “Do What you Are“. (Aside: I know some who take an online variant of the MBTI, so the book version is at least more comprehensive.) I found that I can have different ‘personality designations’ depending on what day, what month and even what time I took the test!

I like Sir Ken Robinson’s take about personality tests. That you cannot boil down a person into one of the sixteen personality profiles put down by the MBTI system. In his words from his book, The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes EverythingRobinson writes that rather than a few boxes of personality types, there are about SIX BILLION personalities. He’s riffing on the world population estimate and that each person has his/her own personality quirk.

For what it’s worth, it’s worth knowing about the MBTI personality test if only because a) your friends/co-workers will talk about it and b) you may be forced to take it as part of some management/executive training program.

But don’t let it box you in. It would stunt your path to socially upward greatness to think that you’re stuck as an “INTJ” or an “ENFP”.